It’s that time of year again – New Year’s Resolutions!
We do quite a bit of introspection as single moms, don’t we? Seems we are always thinking about every course of action, scrutinizing our choices, etc. We want to make sure that our actions and choices are what’s best for our children. Given our “situation,” it feels like there is never room for error.
And now here we are, on the brink of a new year, and it’s the typical scenario. We are once again supposed to look back over the past year, determine where we could do better, and then put a plan in place to improve in the coming year.
So, in the spirit of disclosure, here are my New Year’s resolutions for 2017 – in no particular order.
- Take better care of myself. This includes going to the gym more frequently, and being stricter about my choice of food. I know – ** YAWN ** – that’s what everyone always says. And it’s true. That’s been a recurring theme for me for many years. But this year, it also includes adding things like manicures and getting my hair trimmed more regularly. I have been pretty good about getting regular dental cleanings, etc. But as far as other appointments, I need to do better. My daughters need me to be healthy, so I can be with them for a long time. My youngest is going into high school next fall, so she still needs me around for awhile. Part of being healthy is also taking time to do things to relieve stress and make me feel better about myself. I need to add those into the equation, in addition to the usual diet and exercise resolutions.
- Cultivate deeper friendships, especially with other single parents. I have been blessed with a good support system of family members and church friends. Many of my friends are married, however, and there has been a little “growing apart” with some of them. It’s no one’s fault – we are just at different places in life right now. Single moms can relate to the daily stresses and challenges of my lifestyle right now. They can better understand having no “backup” in the form of a spouse, and having all the responsibility for myself and my children. We can all agree there are unique circumstances for single moms that our married counterparts don’t experience. Having a wider range of single parent friends would help.
- Save more money. This is a goal that I need to work on! I have been focused on getting rid of debt for the past few years, and that’s all fine. I need to continue to get rid of debt this coming year, but I also want to make saving money more of a priority as well. My savings account has been lean for the past several years. Having a hefty savings account goes along way in reducing stress for most of us; single moms, especially! Having enough ready cash on hand to handle an emergency makes life easier and less scary. Knowing that, if a lost job or broken appliance occurs, we can still make the rent and put food on the table goes a long way to keeping us sane.
- Celebrate my circumstances! Being grateful for all that I have, and not fretting about what I don’t. Basically, having an attitude of gratitude. Instead of focusing on what is lacking in my life, being thankful for all that I have been blessed with. There are so many others who have much worse circumstances than I, and are I greater need than I am. I choose to make the best of my life!
Here’s an article from Bob at Seed Time about The 10 Most Common New Year’s Resolutions; is yours on this list? He also gives tips on how to succeed at your resolutions for the new year.
Here are some other post about resolutions:
What are your resolutions for 2017? What are you anticipating in the coming year?
Share some ideas in the comments section, and let us know what you are doing differently next year.